Question by Olga: Had a bad experience where a man touched me when I was dizzy & now I’m scared to go out?
I was out with one of my really close friends from high-school and we went out to dinner and I had quite a few alcoholic drinks. I don’t drink that often so I get very dizzy even with only two alcohol drinks. We were having a good time dancing and the alcohol made me relax and not feel self-concious about dancing in front of strangers. There was this really cute man who I danced with and he said that I was very beautiful and I thought it was very sweet of him.
We danced for longer throughout the night and I started to become more comfortable with him. He asked me to come outside with him and I did, believing that nothing would happen anyway, but when we were outside he touched me inappropriately and I told him to please stop so he did. By that time I was feeling really sick from drinking too much and a bit nauseous with my nerves so I sat down for a moment and he started touching me again and groping my private areas.
I was kind of confused about the whole thing, I think I was mostly in shock than anything because he asked me afterwards to come with him over to his car and obviously I didn’t want to do it because I felt so violated and that he just violated my trust and my body by doing that, I guess maybe I’m a frigid or something so I went back inside.
Now I realize it was absolutely stupid of me to go out and trust this person that I didn’t even know that well and now I’m scared to go out in public or out with friends in places where they serve alcohol. I really hate myself now and can’t believe I did something so stupid. I’m eighteen and I know alot of girls my age are doing this stuff but I’m not even ready for that and I’m so scared now. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
I can’t even talk to my parents about it because I dont want them to freak out and for my dad to tell the police or something and think that I was messing around with men. The man just really violated my privacy and I know it was probably my fault, but I’m so scared to go out now. I feel like crying just thinking about it, discusting. I cant talk to anyone so think is kind of my only option right now..
Best answer:
Answer by MySweetVengeance
That man’s behaviour was disgusting, but you’re not! I guess you didn’t even know how to expect the effect of the alcohol, but at least now you know better — and it could’ve been much worse. If you’re still traumatised by the incident I suggest you get some kind of psychiatrist for a while, it may help you out a lot. But just don’t do it again – if this only happened once, it’s not your fault.
Next time ask a girlfriend to help you out of a sticky situation, and try not to drink if it affects you so badly.
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